Nowadays most people (most people reading this at least I suppose) live in a metropolis (SF, LA, NY, London, Paris...). If you're an adult wit a family, chances

Nowadays most people (most people reading this at least I suppose) live in a metropolis (SF, LA, NY, London, Paris...). If you're an adult wit a family, chances are that you're living in some suburb because of housing prices. I live one hour or more of traffic jams away from these places where people cultivates their friendships (trendy bars, inner city restaurants, concert venues, etc). Almost all of my friends seem to spend their time around République in Paris. All in all, either you're living in Paris intra muros and it's a few minutes of metro away, or you're simply not getting there at all (I myself go there not more than two or three times a year). Most of the time and understandably, I lack any motivation to spend more than 3 hours to have the chance of having a talk with a friend around a coffee, or even a dinner. It's 25 km away, but as far as I'm concerned it's as out of reach as Marseilles. Unsurprisingly, I go to République about as often as I go to Marseilles. So either it's a large party with many people, or I don't go. No more quick interactions with friends, it's just too much work.