It is possible to make friends after 30, and it's very much worth doing. You have to be patient though, as friendships aren't made overnight. I'm a moderate in

It is possible to make friends after 30, and it's very much worth doing. You have to be patient though, as friendships aren't made overnight. I'm a moderate introvert and find it difficult to talk to people and especially to turn casual acquaintances into friends. I turned 30 last year and about the same time realised that I didn't have any close friends in the same city any more, apart from my wife. Spending time with my wife is awesome, but I realised I really missed spending time with other people, and doing other activities (e.g. video games, snowboarding or cycling) that my wife isn't really into. I decided to find a compatible person and try really hard to become good close friends with them. I found an ideal person at a friend's party shortly after who had very similar interests, was in a similar life stage, and who I could easily have thought-provoking conversation with. For about six months I carefully cultivated a friendship with him from a distance (so as to not scare him off), attending parties he and his wife were at, inviting them round for barbeques with other people present etc. My wife was supportive - as an outgoing person with lots of friends of her own it was difficult for her to understand how it felt to run out of friends but she was happy to come along and help me make friends. For a long time I was the only one making contact, and he would be polite and hang out, but never suggest things to do or invite us to their place, and I had to wrestle with the idea that maybe he has enough friends and doesn't really want me. Eventually we pushed through this stage though, and recently he has begun to initiate contact and I'm getting the sense that he's really enjoying hanging out with me, which is amazing. We've continued to have really meaningful and resourceful talks about all sorts of things (kids, politics, work, other friends, house renovations, ....) which both of us clearly really enjoy. We're still in the early stages of our friendship but it seems like it's going somewhere. We're not yet at the stage where we could comfortably hang out "doing nothing", but probably not too far away.