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This old story seems relevant: http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4247488 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4247488 "three conditions that sociologists sinc
by kentlyons 10y ago
This old story seems relevant: http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4247488 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4247488
"three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other"
If anyone is up for an app/company to address these issues, ping me.
- simonsarris 10y agoCoffee houses solved this since the 1600's, not every solution needs an app. The solution probably involves the opposite: put down your phone in public places and engage people. I've made most of my friend/circle by going to the same coffeehouse consistently.
- kentlyons 10y agoI totally agree about engaging with the real world and it not happening (directly) through an app. However, in my experience having spent a fair bit of time in the same coffee shop: proximity is easy; repeated unplanned _interactions_, not so much. Maybe there are regulars, but there is nothing about (my) coffee shop that led to regular interaction. Nor is there something to let their guard down. Maybe a coffee shop is a good setting (or maybe another is better), but I think something more is needed to hit these criteria beyond just random luck.
- marmaduke 10y agoSeems like an app would be antithetical to first two conditions?