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For everyone the "30" comes at a different age bracket...it's fine to have noticed, but ultimately...does it matter? Socialization is not the end goal of our ex
by andreiw 10y ago
For everyone the "30" comes at a different age bracket...it's fine to have noticed, but ultimately...does it matter? Socialization is not the end goal of our existence. There is no value to try too hard to make new connections for the sake of making connections, nor to be faning the flames of connections that had naturally been grown out of. People change. Sometimes they change together, but most times they don't. Instead of forcing friendship, just enjoy the memories of what was good at the time when it made sense.
I have a feeling that for some people the thought of being alone with your own thoughts is the most ominous and scariest thing to imagine. that is what really needs to be addressed.
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- 77pt77 10y ago> Socialization is not the end goal of our existence Any idea what it is? :) > I have a feeling that for some people the thought of being alone with your own thoughts is the most ominous and scariest thing to imagine. that is what really needs to be addressed. I've noticed this also. People are terrified of their own company and will do almost everything in their power to avoid it.
- kareemm 10y agoWe are social animals. Close social ties are one of the biggest predictors of happiness. I'll just leave this here[1]: > The upshot of 50 years of happiness research is that the quantity and quality of a person's social connections—friendships, relationships with family members, closeness to neighbors, etc.—is so closely related to well-being and personal happiness the two can practically be equated. 1 - http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/raising_happiness/post/happiness_is_being_socially_connected http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/raising_happiness/post/happi...
- htns 10y ago>We are social animals More like murder-anyone-not-from-our-low-double-digits-headcount-community animals ;) The way the phrase is popularly used is an equivocation.
- hackuser 10y agoI'm pretty sure that's wrong. People need social relationships to survive; it's not optional. People literally go insane without social contact.
- htns 10y agoThat's ludicrous. There are countless hermits, castaways, and such who retained their sanity just fine. Even cabin fever is not insanity.
- colx 10y ago> Even cabin fever is not insanity. If anything, the fact that cabin fever is so prevalent should be an indication that maybe humans haven't evolved to live in very close proximity for most of the time.
- ketralnis 10y agoOr maybe some people value different things than other people
- andreiw 10y agoNo doubt. I guess I object to people passing off the monsters under their bed as some sort of universal truth.
- ionised 10y agoIf you've figured out what the end goal of human existence is, we'd love to hear it.