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> She's the only one from high school I still talk to regularly, and she is definitely my best friend. We're in our 50s. I wonder if this is a generational th

> She's the only one from high school I still talk to regularly, and she is definitely my best friend. We're in our 50s. I wonder if this is a generational thing, I've kept in touch with a few high school friends, and none of them are married in their early 30's. In the past decade I've forgone serious relationships for studies and work, and I'm alone at 31. It's sad in some ways, but at this point I'm more afraid of a bad partner and financial ruin than taking a chance at a happier life.

sndean 10y ago
> I'm more afraid of a bad partner and financial ruin than taking a chance at a happier life. Just curious, what would cause financial ruin? Dating being expensive, etc? Or divorce?
- theparanoid 10y ago
  Divorce
  - logicchains 10y ago
    What about prenuptial agreements? Anyone who isn't marrying you for your income should be open to one.
    - snerbles 10y ago
      Courts are known to throw out the occasional pre-nup, depending on jurisdiction.
  - deleted 10y ago
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  - wasted_intel 10y ago
    Perfect handle for this response.
delecti 10y ago
I'm only in regular contact with one friend from high school, and that's probably only because we also went to college together. It makes sense to me, given how much I and just about everyone I know changed in college, that a friendship from before that wouldn't last. I'm still Facebook friends (we could get in contact, but don't) with several former high school friends though, and nearly all of them have gotten married before turning 30. In my experience it's less a generational thing than a career field thing, because none of those former friends from high school are devs, but the majority of my 30+ dev friends and contacts are unmarried, a tide that's only starting to turn. I won't speculate on what it might be, but there definitely seems to be something about devs that makes us take longer to settle down than average.
hackuser 10y ago
> I'm more afraid of a bad partner and financial ruin than taking a chance at a happier life You do get to choose your partner. Perhaps keep looking until you find someone you feel safe with ... you only need to find one.

sndean 10y ago

> I'm more afraid of a bad partner and financial ruin than taking a chance at a happier life. Just curious, what would cause financial ruin? Dating being expensive, etc? Or divorce?

theparanoid 10y ago
Divorce
- logicchains 10y ago
  What about prenuptial agreements? Anyone who isn't marrying you for your income should be open to one.
  - snerbles 10y ago
    Courts are known to throw out the occasional pre-nup, depending on jurisdiction.
- deleted 10y ago
  [deleted]
- wasted_intel 10y ago
  Perfect handle for this response.

delecti 10y ago

I'm only in regular contact with one friend from high school, and that's probably only because we also went to college together. It makes sense to me, given how much I and just about everyone I know changed in college, that a friendship from before that wouldn't last. I'm still Facebook friends (we could get in contact, but don't) with several former high school friends though, and nearly all of them have gotten married before turning 30. In my experience it's less a generational thing than a career field thing, because none of those former friends from high school are devs, but the majority of my 30+ dev friends and contacts are unmarried, a tide that's only starting to turn. I won't speculate on what it might be, but there definitely seems to be something about devs that makes us take longer to settle down than average.

hackuser 10y ago

> I'm more afraid of a bad partner and financial ruin than taking a chance at a happier life You do get to choose your partner. Perhaps keep looking until you find someone you feel safe with ... you only need to find one.