Thanks for sharing your experience. My set of problems are different but I noticed my experience has been somewhat similar to yours. I'm working in therapy on a

Thanks for sharing your experience. My set of problems are different but I noticed my experience has been somewhat similar to yours. I'm working in therapy on acceptance and recognizing the internal shaming that came about because of my upbringing. The frustrating part is that my relationship with my wife (who suffers from borderline personality disorder) makes it extremely difficult when she is fighting the new me that is emerging. She needs constant reassurance about going better places in the future and doesn't like that I'm starting to be ok with the present. The other day I tried to get something done but couldn't since she needed to talk for 6 hours on her day off work and the talk wasn't going the way she liked so it escalated and she got suicidal. She keeps arguing with me to go to a big tech company and make enough money so she never has to work and can be at home with the kids all the time but she's been a stay at home mom before and it ends up being her sitting at home stewing with anger and neglecting the kids and the house. It's hard to make real progress when it is met with so much resistance by loved ones