Actually people don't understand that such kind of putting-the-finger-on-the wound talk is usually also the author taling to himself. I actually come from a rur

Actually people don't understand that such kind of putting-the-finger-on-the wound talk is usually also the author taling to himself. I actually come from a rural background, and I often make the same mistakes: not educating myself before making a decision, hoping that someone else would solve my problems, falling for the cheater instead of the accepting the hard truth. And in case that isn't clear: The second quote is me saying "no there is nothing to understand. Their needs are simple, well known, to all but themselves". And I also give reasons for that, e.g. that they don't try to educate themselves and that they hope other people come and solve their problems. In that regard, using the internet we can also educate ourselves. All we need is some basic writing and reading skills. The rest is just putting in the effort to find the right ressources and people to learn and discuss with.