> essentially XMPP with Conversations is all we have in this arena right now There's also Matrix (matrix.org). Took me about half an hour to set up a homeserve

> essentially XMPP with Conversations is all we have in this arena right now There's also Matrix (matrix.org). Took me about half an hour to set up a homeserver, has federation and TLS for now but full end to end encryption is already in beta (since I'm using my own homeserver I'm fine with just TLS) and Riot, the biggest client, is easy to set up and use. My wife is rather opposed to new things and isn't amazing with technology but she's happy enough with it. Conversations on the other hand was a pain to set up self hosted (more Prosody/eJabberd's fault though) and had silent message send/receive failures.