I Regret: 1. Accepting what was in front of me at the time, at the cost of my own deeper/real identity, and not just waiting it out. I should have believed mor

I Regret: 1. Accepting what was in front of me at the time, at the cost of my own deeper/real identity, and not just waiting it out. I should have believed more strongly in my core values, including that belief that life is infinite and this birth/lifetime is one amongst many and even if I don't find anyone to share it with in a committed relationship, even then it is worth living and can be shared with other humans in other ways. 2. Associating certain laudable qualities with a minority religious-ethnic group and then assuming all members of that group would have those qualities, totally ignoring the fact that humans are complicated and diverse and different shades of psychopath (even when its is no fault of theirs!). 3. Assuming that my good behavior towards someone's family would be reciprocated towards my family. I arrived at the following equation: If you don't like A's (say, a man) behavior towards B (a woman), then if you are (say) a man, do NOT behave towards any woman, as B (a woman) behaved with A (a man). Otherwise, you are setting yourself up to be treated by the woman as A (a man) treated B (a woman)! Why would you do this in the first place, you ask? Perhaps, out of a sense of righting a social injustice, perhaps thinking that feminism means that you (a man) has to make-up and pay for your gender's injustice to the other gender by letting the historically exploited gender get away with unfair and atrocious behavior (or specifically, behavior far less equal to yours). 4. Ignoring the big blazing (in retrospect), warning signs in people's behavior and actions that I would (could/should) have heeded if were not thinking with tunnel-vision. Plenty of things I can go on and on about .... BUT Ask me what I don't regret? That's a list for another day (when I feel gratitude!).