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I regret being timid with doctors when my daughter had an issue. I knew something was wrong but didn't want to be obnoxious and insist I knew more than them. I
by MichaelGG 10y ago
I regret being timid with doctors when my daughter had an issue. I knew something was wrong but didn't want to be obnoxious and insist I knew more than them. I let them delay important scans because it was late Sunday and they convinced me it wasn't a big deal, that'd it be OK, nothing would happen overnight. That was incorrect and she died two days later. It was a minor issue that should have been caught, that I almost certainly would have prevented just by insisting a bit, risking a bit of embarrassment of being a pushy parent.
11 years later and this still destroys me any time it crosses my mind.
- usgroup 10y agoI'm sorry to hear that Michael. So sorry to hear about your loss. Hindsight is so difficult. I've a similar medical experience and still think about it a lot. "I had it in the back of my mind, why didn't I insist?". I know it is because the hindsight gives me certainty that I did not have at the time but the impulse to regret is sometimes overwhelming. For what it's worth mate; hang in there.
- MichaelGG 10y agoBecause we're taught to revere doctors instead of seeing them as just another professional that makes mistakes. I'm reminded of "the rabbit is running for its life, the fox just for its lunch". Not to suggest doctors don't care, but it's just a fact: they will make mistakes and they have to accept that in order to work effectively.
- rayuela 10y agoOh goddamnit, that was right in the feels. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you forgive yourself for it one day. Your intentions were well placed and you couldn't have known.