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I regret spending years trying to make others (parents, siblings, others) around me happy & conform to their ideals / wishes, instead of trying to make myself h

I regret spending years trying to make others (parents, siblings, others) around me happy & conform to their ideals / wishes, instead of trying to make myself happy. I regret following their advice getting married to someone I already knew at the time I didn't fully want to get married to, then having kids because that's what everyone else felt was right for me. And I "regret" meeting other people who I know would make me happier, but not knowing how to get out of my present position, without making a ton of people (incl. little people) unhappy in the process... (and hopefully I'm not going to regret not having posted this under a throwaway account)

paki123 10y ago
I'm in an arranged marriage, and I have literally no desire to marry this girl. 0. But I feel like because I have no spine, I'm going to end up marrying her, or running away at the last minute before the marriage and abandon my family. I want my family, I love my family and want to be with them, but I don't want this. They are pressuring me to go through with it due to the ramifications of what would happen socially, and I am starting to realize that they are overblowing those ramifications just to get me to marry this girl. What should I do? Just tell my parents I don't want to do this and have them essentially hate me for the next few months to year?