I've been there (even the relocation to another country part). Only the woman in my life at the time wasn't asking me to commit, but she would have committed to

I've been there (even the relocation to another country part). Only the woman in my life at the time wasn't asking me to commit, but she would have committed to me - that is, taken me seriously for the long-term - if I had had my shit together professionally (to have been someone with goals, a trajectory of sorts). It's been almost a decade now since then and I don't think of her anymore but it was hands-down the best, most exciting relationship I've had til now. On the other hand, in the breakup, she treated me really badly/poorly, so it remains like a song where the first 90% was great then someone decided to run their fingernails down a chalkboard for the finale. I heard through the grapevine that the next guy she dated, she stayed with and eventually married.