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It's very hard to second guess things in life - if you're happy with how things have worked out in general, it's near impossible to say what contributed and wha
by mathattack 10y ago
It's very hard to second guess things in life - if you're happy with how things have worked out in general, it's near impossible to say what contributed and what hurt.
But....
1 - I was quite a jerk in some relationships when I was in college and soon thereafter. I didn't need to be.
2 - I regret not forcing my way overseas earlier in life.
3 - I regret not paying attention to subjects outside of Computer Science earlier in life.
4 - I regret not achieving wealth soon enough in life to take care of my parents better.
- restalis 10y agoI was quite a jerk in the teenage years and regretted that too until not long ago. I come to convince myself that turning into a jerk was only an adapting reaction to fend off abusive people. From what I've noticed in the pool of abuse-avoiders friends, the ones having enough social skills maybe managed to deal with it gracefully enough, but for the others (me included) being a plain jerk was the simplest working solution. If you still beat yourself over it it may be because you just forget the problems and limitations you had back then.
- mathattack 10y agoIn my case it was more around dating. It was more about being immature on my part than any issues on anyone else's. (If it was being defensive, that's more conscionable than being a jerk who didn't think enough about others)