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because youre too told to enoy it now or because you are in a monogamous relationship now?

k__ 10y ago
Probably because you don't get any "fitter/healthier" when getting old. When you're in your 20s, you have more options (physically) then when you're in your 50s.
VLM 10y ago
There's another possibility, when I was sixteen, I went to a very large highschool with approx three hundred sixteen year old girls so its not like I had a lack of opportunity, but for legal reasons and cultural attitudes toward age differences that very specific missed experience is now permanently inaccessible. Everything WRT that topic is good today, older women my age are very enjoyable ... but I obviously missed out on some fun, many years ago. You're only gonna be sixteen exactly once, for about 365 days, that's it. So if you're 16 and want to have sex with someone who's 16 the only certain advice I can provide is you're not likely to stop wondering what it would have been like any time soon, and over time the odds very rapidly reach zero (roughly by the time you graduate HS?), so get out there while you can ... while avoiding diseases and pregnancies. Of course seeing as older, smarter, and far more experienced versions of yourself repeatedly manage to fail to avoid diseases and pregnancies remarkably often, maybe forever wondering is better than forever herpes/hiv or forever having kids while you were still a kid yourself.
facepalm 10y ago
Married
- Grishnakh 10y ago
  You need to ask your wife for an open marriage. Monogamous relationships are morally wrong IMO.
  - facepalm 10y ago
    While I also think that humans are probably not built for monogamy, I'm not sure if it would really help much. We also have small children, so there is not much time to meet other people. And there is the issue of physical attractiveness. I am attracted to some women of my age, but more often to younger women. I shudder at the thought of what they might think of me (leery old guy...).
    - trprog 10y ago
      Serious suggestion. Assuming it is legal wherever you are consider periodic visits to a brothel. Attractive young ladies (or gentleman) whose job is providing convenient sex to people they probably wouldn't otherwise have sex with. I have heard of couple's coming to an arrangement where the husband (it always seems to be the husband) goes once a month. Similarly I have met divorced men who opt for brothels in place of pursuing other relationships. This decision typically seems to come after an expensive divorce when they do the math and realize that it may be cheaper to have sex with a parade of paid professionals Vs getting into another serious relationship and losing half their stuff again.
      - Grishnakh 10y ago
        >Similarly I have met divorced men who opt for brothels in place of pursuing other relationships. This is probably exactly why brothels are highly illegal in most places. Can't have people disrupting the social order...
      - facepalm 10y ago
        I am not morally opposed to brothels, but it doesn't appeal to me personally. Not yet, anyway - maybe the more older and disgusting I get, the more I will consider the option out of desperation (I hope not).

k__ 10y ago

Probably because you don't get any "fitter/healthier" when getting old. When you're in your 20s, you have more options (physically) then when you're in your 50s.

VLM 10y ago

There's another possibility, when I was sixteen, I went to a very large highschool with approx three hundred sixteen year old girls so its not like I had a lack of opportunity, but for legal reasons and cultural attitudes toward age differences that very specific missed experience is now permanently inaccessible. Everything WRT that topic is good today, older women my age are very enjoyable ... but I obviously missed out on some fun, many years ago. You're only gonna be sixteen exactly once, for about 365 days, that's it. So if you're 16 and want to have sex with someone who's 16 the only certain advice I can provide is you're not likely to stop wondering what it would have been like any time soon, and over time the odds very rapidly reach zero (roughly by the time you graduate HS?), so get out there while you can ... while avoiding diseases and pregnancies. Of course seeing as older, smarter, and far more experienced versions of yourself repeatedly manage to fail to avoid diseases and pregnancies remarkably often, maybe forever wondering is better than forever herpes/hiv or forever having kids while you were still a kid yourself.

facepalm 10y ago

Married

Grishnakh 10y ago
You need to ask your wife for an open marriage. Monogamous relationships are morally wrong IMO.
- facepalm 10y ago
  While I also think that humans are probably not built for monogamy, I'm not sure if it would really help much. We also have small children, so there is not much time to meet other people. And there is the issue of physical attractiveness. I am attracted to some women of my age, but more often to younger women. I shudder at the thought of what they might think of me (leery old guy...).
  - trprog 10y ago
    Serious suggestion. Assuming it is legal wherever you are consider periodic visits to a brothel. Attractive young ladies (or gentleman) whose job is providing convenient sex to people they probably wouldn't otherwise have sex with. I have heard of couple's coming to an arrangement where the husband (it always seems to be the husband) goes once a month. Similarly I have met divorced men who opt for brothels in place of pursuing other relationships. This decision typically seems to come after an expensive divorce when they do the math and realize that it may be cheaper to have sex with a parade of paid professionals Vs getting into another serious relationship and losing half their stuff again.
    - Grishnakh 10y ago
      >Similarly I have met divorced men who opt for brothels in place of pursuing other relationships. This is probably exactly why brothels are highly illegal in most places. Can't have people disrupting the social order...
    - facepalm 10y ago
      I am not morally opposed to brothels, but it doesn't appeal to me personally. Not yet, anyway - maybe the more older and disgusting I get, the more I will consider the option out of desperation (I hope not).