i don't have any children of my own but i lived with my family while my younger brothers were growing up. none of us ever had to hit them. to me hitting a chi

i don't have any children of my own but i lived with my family while my younger brothers were growing up. none of us ever had to hit them. to me hitting a child is a dangerous shortcut to explaining things. if they recognize you care about them, why shouldn't they listen? that's what i saw in my brothers. they listened because they respected, in a true sense, their elders. violence will destroy their respect for you and alienate them they don't have to understand every word you say because they can hear compassion. i think if violence has to be used in a relationship, it's a broken relationship. but perhaps most parents don't see it as a relationship where respect has to go both ways. if your child is having tantrums against you, and not listening to you, something went wrong long ago, and using that as evidence that children can't be reasoned with is fallacious