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Please inspire your 2 year old child to obey your rules. Seriously, though, at least you can understand where it comes from. And discipline is not just smack s

by Spyckie 19y ago

Please inspire your 2 year old child to obey your rules. Seriously, though, at least you can understand where it comes from. And discipline is not just smack smack smack and you're done. Discipline involves telling the child what they did wrong and why.

curi 19y ago
Your approach is to assume the parent is right, and that his rules must be obeyed. This is not a way to find good ways to proceed on any issue. A better approach is to recognize that everyone makes mistakes, and the important thing is to institute policies that correct errors. That means rather than spending all your time making your rules be obeyed by any means necessary, there needs to be mechanism so that if you make a mistake you will be corrected (at least if anyone, including your child, is aware of it). This could be called "philosophically enlightened parenting" and it's better because it takes into account what we know about how knowledge is created (including knowledge of what to do in particular situations or how to solve problems in one's life including undesired behavior by one's child). That it doesn't hurt is nice too.
Tichy 19y ago
Spanking is not telling what is wrong. If the 2 year old child can not yet understand the rules, how can it be fair to punish them? If it can't understand words, why should it magically understand being hit? Just go out on the street and look at people walking their dogs. Do you think it makes a lot of sense if those people get angry with their dogs, you know the kind who go "bad doggy" all the time and have full conversations with their dogs? I don't think it does, because dogs can not even understand what these people are saying. They are fooling themselves, and so apparently are you with your communication with kids (I mean it seems to be a human error). (I know the dog can probably understand it did something wrong, even if not WHAT it did wrong, but I hope you know what kind of people I am talking about - a lot of time the human-dog communication just doesn't make sense, but humans somehow fool themselves).

by Spyckie 19y ago

curi 19y ago

Your approach is to assume the parent is right, and that his rules must be obeyed. This is not a way to find good ways to proceed on any issue. A better approach is to recognize that everyone makes mistakes, and the important thing is to institute policies that correct errors. That means rather than spending all your time making your rules be obeyed by any means necessary, there needs to be mechanism so that if you make a mistake you will be corrected (at least if anyone, including your child, is aware of it). This could be called "philosophically enlightened parenting" and it's better because it takes into account what we know about how knowledge is created (including knowledge of what to do in particular situations or how to solve problems in one's life including undesired behavior by one's child). That it doesn't hurt is nice too.

Tichy 19y ago

Spanking is not telling what is wrong. If the 2 year old child can not yet understand the rules, how can it be fair to punish them? If it can't understand words, why should it magically understand being hit? Just go out on the street and look at people walking their dogs. Do you think it makes a lot of sense if those people get angry with their dogs, you know the kind who go "bad doggy" all the time and have full conversations with their dogs? I don't think it does, because dogs can not even understand what these people are saying. They are fooling themselves, and so apparently are you with your communication with kids (I mean it seems to be a human error). (I know the dog can probably understand it did something wrong, even if not WHAT it did wrong, but I hope you know what kind of people I am talking about - a lot of time the human-dog communication just doesn't make sense, but humans somehow fool themselves).