Yes, I think our definitions might be different. "Nice" to me means people-pleaser; doing nice things to others and merely hoping that people in general will be

Yes, I think our definitions might be different. "Nice" to me means people-pleaser; doing nice things to others and merely hoping that people in general will be nice to you back (without expecting it) - Unfortunately this doesn't usually work. Being nice is compulsive for me so I have to constantly remind myself to "be a jerk".