I practice mindfulness, and yet I find myself creating those very same walls with my wife. In the past two and a half years, some of our arguments have gotten i

I practice mindfulness, and yet I find myself creating those very same walls with my wife. In the past two and a half years, some of our arguments have gotten intense. I could see it escalating, worse and worse. It's only in the past month or so that we are both figuring out better communication patterns. It's why I'm so arrested by this article and @rustynail's examples. I don't know what it is, but I feel like I'm on the verge of grokking something here.