I agree with you, in that there seems to be a.... lack of quality role models and certain cultural norms that play into men feeling like they have to be a certa

I agree with you, in that there seems to be a.... lack of quality role models and certain cultural norms that play into men feeling like they have to be a certain way. Especially a very loud minority of women, who have certain men wanting to live up to those standards... and find themselves miserable as a result. I think the biggest point of this is that, it is possible to get what you want, and there are others who want that. And generally that if it is a quality point it is applicable to both genders. To be happy and get what they want, people need to be clear on what it is they DO want. To have a successful relationship, people need to have good boundaries and know where they are willing to compromise. etc etc... Women aren't the oppressors... or... whatever else. It is a person's agreement (because they don't know any other options) to be oppressed that is the real oppression. That they limit themselves.