You need a different peer group. Then again, in a recent accounting, I noticed that most of my friends are or have been poly. I'm not saying my life is normal

You need a different peer group. Then again, in a recent accounting, I noticed that most of my friends are or have been poly. I'm not saying my life is normal. I am saying that my peer group isn't losing much autonomy to their relationships, even the monogamous ones; it's possible I'm already seeing the social restructuring you're expecting. (Or, one potential restructuring).