>My hunch is the loss of valuing community and family in US culture. With no reason/motivation to work, no one depending on them, men just drop out. I think th

>My hunch is the loss of valuing community and family in US culture. With no reason/motivation to work, no one depending on them, men just drop out. I think there's a lot to this. Notice also that the divorce rate is high, and worse, the rate of people staying single is rising a lot too: many people just aren't bothering to get married any more. I'm back in the dating pool, and I'm finding a LOT of urban women these days who are in their 30s and even 40s and never got married, and after trying to date some of them it's my opinion that for most of them, they're college-educated and their professions and girlfriends have kept them busy all this time (plus lots of foreign travel it seems), and they just don't feel like they need a relationship, and I'm guessing when they get horny they just go to a neighborhood bar and pick up someone. Anyway, after dating some of them it seems to me they're all stuck holding out for Mr. Perfect, and want someone who looks and dresses like a GQ model, can run a marathon, drives a BMW, and lives right across the street from them downtown. It's so bad that many of these women are finally realizing they want to experience motherhood and are getting IVF to do it, without bothering to have a husband first. I met one woman on Tinder who was a little over 40, and told me in the very first phone conversation how she had already tried one round of IVF! WTF? Notice also that women are going to college much more than men now (60% vs 40%), and women with any brains at all are going to college and moving into the cities. Men who aren't college educated don't do the same, so now we're having parts of the country with severe imbalances between single men and women. There's a ridiculous number of single women in NYC, for instance.