"The manifestation of anger means some model you are holding onto is no longer in sync with reality and that resynchronization costs more than your time prefere

"The manifestation of anger means some model you are holding onto is no longer in sync with reality and that resynchronization costs more than your time preferences will allow" A different way that I know is: Anger is a secondary feeling that we use to cover the main feeling, may it be pain, sadness, or any other. Anger is a symptom, the hidden feeling is the cause. To manage anger we need to address the hidden feeling. I agree that anger on it self is not wrong. But it is not a justification either. Hurting other people because I am angry is not ok either. And that is what the Western culture (or at least some of it) tries to address. To control the damage that the "out of sync" can produce