well, in my opinion: what we call "adulting" is what we see when we are kids and watch our parents. but what we see is an act they perform for us - as role mode

well, in my opinion: what we call "adulting" is what we see when we are kids and watch our parents. but what we see is an act they perform for us - as role models - and we perceive it without all required background knowledge (because, well, we're kids). so when we grow up and the reality doesn't exactly match our expectations, the assumption is that we're not doing it right. usually, at least when we - or close friends - get kids, the acting is explained. and we might have aquired the background knowledge, but the settings have changed. i don't think we refuse to grow up. it's just that being an adult is not what we thought it to be when we attached meaning to the word.