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I don't really like living for the benefit of others. I've noticed in my life that the more I'm working to fulfill the expectations of others, or taking care of
by draw_down 10y ago
I don't really like living for the benefit of others. I've noticed in my life that the more I'm working to fulfill the expectations of others, or taking care of things that they either can't do or can't do well, the more miserable that makes me. I'd say that adulthood is in several respects the process of acclimating to living your life for others.
This article spends a lot of time talking about the trappings, like cars and stuff. For me at least, having or not having that stuff has never been the issue with adulthood.
- nemo1618 10y ago>I don't really like living for the benefit of others. It's much easier (satisfying, even) when the other people are friends, family, spouse, neighbors... people you care about. It is no sacrifice to expend time and energy helping these people.
- draw_down 10y agoShort term, I readily agree. Longer term... I start to get resentful, I get tired of doing the same thing I've done a hundred times before. A kindness extended for long enough becomes an obligation. I think people should basically be able to handle things on their own. To be clear, I don't think it's good that I feel this way. I don't think more people should be like me. But this is how I am, and attempting to deny the fact has only led to resentment, depression, and a bad time for all involved.
- ionised 10y ago> It is no sacrifice to expend time and energy helping these people. That depends entirely on who they are.
- hilop 10y agoIt's a lot more fun living to enjoy the benfits others provide to me.