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Opening paragraph has it in a nutshell: > I am a woman in her 30s living in an exciting and lively urban area. I am successful, intelligent, fiercely independe

Opening paragraph has it in a nutshell: > I am a woman in her 30s living in an exciting and lively urban area. I am successful, intelligent, fiercely independent, hard working, beautiful (by my own standards when I’m not PMSing), and multifaceted. I have a wonderful career, worked hard to pursue and complete graduate level education, and I am sane and stable (subjectively). I play various musical instruments, have an array of interesting and active hobbies, have loyal and loving friends and family, and my charm and wit entertain myself and others to no end. I am a catch. Not to mention, severely humble. Men are into women primarily for one deep ancestral reason: reproduction. Are you willing to drop your successful career, independence, array of interesting hobbies, move into a less exciting area to save money for the next ten years of your life? Are you willing make conceiving, delivering and raising children your new career? I didn't think so. Then don't act so surprised that mature men stay far far away from you. If all you need is someone to cheer how awesome you are, your circle of loyal and loving friends will have to do. On a deeper level, it saddens me to no end to witness the death of a great civilization. We are here because our ancestors took motherhood seriously. Our culture is poisoning the minds of our generation with distractions and false gods. Our great-great-children may never be conceived. Nobody left to carry on. End of times.

icebraining 10y ago
Are you willing make conceiving, delivering and raising children your new career? Is this anything more than a conservative's fantasy? From everything I've read, women in general never dedicated their lives to raising children. Either they were poor and had too much work to do, or they had servants to take care of them. This concept of widespread full-time motherhood doesn't seem rooted in any historical reality.
- throwaway994995 10y ago
  Let's look at data: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_leave_in_the_United_States#/media/File:Federally_mandated_maternity_leave_by_country.gif https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_leave_in_the_United_... Rich westernized countries, except US, offer between 1 and 3 years of unpaid maternity leave. This is a strong recognition of the critical role mothers play in the early life of their children, and a recognition of the importance of rearing the next generation. Multiply by 2 or 3 children, and you get anywhere between 2 and 9 years of working on the "conceiving, delivering and raising children" career. Of course, it doesn't end when the child is 3 years old, more like when s/he's 18, and sometimes much later. Furthermore, when women have a real choice between career and family, many choose family. http://www.economist.com/blogs/economist-explains/2015/05/economist-explains-12 http://www.economist.com/blogs/economist-explains/2015/05/ec.... "in the Netherlands 26.8% of men and 76.6% of women work less than 36 hours a week". I, for one, am commending them for it. Does this mean that women should spend their entire existence attending to their children? By no means! The Dutch arrangement sound fantastic. As an old Dutch friend proudly stated, what Netherlands does today, the rest of the developed world will do in 10-20 years, so there is hope for the rest of us. As of the lady in the OP, she has her priorities in the wrong place, no surprise adult men stay away from her.
draw_down 10y ago
Oh hush.

icebraining 10y ago

Are you willing make conceiving, delivering and raising children your new career? Is this anything more than a conservative's fantasy? From everything I've read, women in general never dedicated their lives to raising children. Either they were poor and had too much work to do, or they had servants to take care of them. This concept of widespread full-time motherhood doesn't seem rooted in any historical reality.

throwaway994995 10y ago
Let's look at data: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_leave_in_the_United_States#/media/File:Federally_mandated_maternity_leave_by_country.gif https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_leave_in_the_United_... Rich westernized countries, except US, offer between 1 and 3 years of unpaid maternity leave. This is a strong recognition of the critical role mothers play in the early life of their children, and a recognition of the importance of rearing the next generation. Multiply by 2 or 3 children, and you get anywhere between 2 and 9 years of working on the "conceiving, delivering and raising children" career. Of course, it doesn't end when the child is 3 years old, more like when s/he's 18, and sometimes much later. Furthermore, when women have a real choice between career and family, many choose family. http://www.economist.com/blogs/economist-explains/2015/05/economist-explains-12 http://www.economist.com/blogs/economist-explains/2015/05/ec.... "in the Netherlands 26.8% of men and 76.6% of women work less than 36 hours a week". I, for one, am commending them for it. Does this mean that women should spend their entire existence attending to their children? By no means! The Dutch arrangement sound fantastic. As an old Dutch friend proudly stated, what Netherlands does today, the rest of the developed world will do in 10-20 years, so there is hope for the rest of us. As of the lady in the OP, she has her priorities in the wrong place, no surprise adult men stay away from her.

draw_down 10y ago

Oh hush.