It's harder to build the type of commitment necessary for a successful marriage when neither of you really needs the other one. In the case of my wife and I, w

It's harder to build the type of commitment necessary for a successful marriage when neither of you really needs the other one. In the case of my wife and I, we built our lives together. I hope you and your wife have a long, happy marriage. But, I think you are oversimplifying by quite a lot. Needing each other is not automatically a recipe for a successful marriage. I was married more than 20 years. I am divorced. The divorce was amicable and I have no regrets. For various reasons, I have thought about this quite a lot, and I think no matter your circumstance, finding a real meeting of the minds is a serious challenge. If two people can achieve that, I think they can be okay. If they cannot, they will not be -- regardless of whether they stay together or divorce.