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I've found the opposite to be true. It's harder to build the type of commitment necessary for a successful marriage when neither of you really needs the other o

I've found the opposite to be true. It's harder to build the type of commitment necessary for a successful marriage when neither of you really needs the other one. If both of you prioritized career over family leading up to the point of marriage, that's not likely to change after you're married. This is fine (if somewhat less meaningful) as long as you both remain financially and professionally independent, but the moment one of you loses a job or faces a major life challenge that strips you of your success, the other is going to be faced with a choice of either reorienting their priorities or letting you go. Often people choose the former. In the case of my wife and I, we built our lives together. When we met, we had little or nothing. So our priorities were never material, always each other, and everything we have is shared.

Mz 10y ago
It's harder to build the type of commitment necessary for a successful marriage when neither of you really needs the other one. In the case of my wife and I, we built our lives together. I hope you and your wife have a long, happy marriage. But, I think you are oversimplifying by quite a lot. Needing each other is not automatically a recipe for a successful marriage. I was married more than 20 years. I am divorced. The divorce was amicable and I have no regrets. For various reasons, I have thought about this quite a lot, and I think no matter your circumstance, finding a real meeting of the minds is a serious challenge. If two people can achieve that, I think they can be okay. If they cannot, they will not be -- regardless of whether they stay together or divorce.