Very polished profiles help to get first dates, but not actually finding good partners. I know/have friends that are actually really good at getting the first

Very polished profiles help to get first dates, but not actually finding good partners. I know/have friends that are actually really good at getting the first date, but strike out after it. At the end of the day you need in person skills, and being polished yourself to be lucky at it. People that are polished in person and come out as they have their stuff together, tend to do much better in meeting people in real life. It seems that most dating apps are geared/optimized towards engagement and keep you swiping more than actually finding a partner. Also, the only success stories I have heard of online/app dating has been only from women.