I have spent plenty of time on a forum where people routinely ask relationship questions and many people seem to have plenty of trouble evaluating even just the

I have spent plenty of time on a forum where people routinely ask relationship questions and many people seem to have plenty of trouble evaluating even just the current relationship they are in right now and whether or not it is worth staying. These are perfectly intelligent people. I don't think the world really has established good rubrics for how to sort out who to marry. The high divorce rate also suggests we have trouble with this. So, I posit that not knowing what you want/need in a romantic partner is a problem no matter how many people you are considering -- even if it is just one.