You're fundamentally misunderstanding what I and others are saying. We're talking about the opposite of cowering away. We're talking about the exact community

You're fundamentally misunderstanding what I and others are saying. We're talking about the opposite of cowering away. We're talking about the exact community building you value - both out there and back at home. You're also clearly writing with a chip on your shoulder. I don't know what bad experience created that chip, but I'm not interested in fighting you or putting down your own experience. Please try to offer the same in return.