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So I've TA'ed for a little while now and I think the answer isn't anything fundamental how women are regarded or how man are being biased against. Men rarely,

So I've TA'ed for a little while now and I think the answer isn't anything fundamental how women are regarded or how man are being biased against. Men rarely, if ever, act as grateful as women when you help them. There's a long list of potential reasons for this, but I've found it nearly universally to be the case. Even though it's not politically correct, you're more likely to help the person who will thank you sincerely for the help as opposed to the guy who feels like you owe it to him (also often the case).

chops 17y ago
My experience is not in line with yours. In my experience, answering calls and support questions, I've gotten plenty of guys who are grateful for the help. They might not gush about it, but they almost universally offer thanks for any help I give, it's just more in the guy-like "Thanks a lot, dude, I really appreciate it." On the flip-side, in my experience (I run a MMO guild hosting site, so this is a demographic that's rife with drama), the women I've talked with have a much stronger tendency to get WAY vindictive. I find harshly written emails (on that rare occasion) tend to come from women moreso than men. The men I've helped, when sending an email concerning something like billing or whatnot, tend to be more chill about things "Hey, I noticed X and it doesn't seem to be in line with what I was expecting. What's up?", vs the emails I've gotten from women for similar issues that go something like "What the hell? I don't know what you guys are doing, but if this issue isn't resolved immediately, I'm going to dispute the charge" (mind you, that might be an initial correspondence). None of this is universal, but those are some of the tendencies I've experienced.
greenlblue 17y ago
That's been my experience as well. Guys are more arrogant and feel more entitled than girls and overall I have noticed that girls are more willing to put in the effort and do the work to get a good grade whereas guys will come to you with a sob story and all their initial enthusiasm about doing better will fizzle out within a week.
gaius 17y ago
By "act grateful" you mean, she will (deliberately) mimic the signals that she finds you attractive, making you momentarily feel good about yourself. It's the same as when the pretty waitress flirts with you. She flirts with everyone, and gets good tips. A man will simply say "cheers" and buy you a pint. What do you expect him to do?
- alexgartrell 17y ago
  Actually, I mean that she will say "Thank you so much!" on the way out of the door. If I was going to TA to get hit on, I would probably TA something besides Introduction to Computer Systems. The girls I've dated tend to be more attractive than the girls who show up at office hours, and I'm deliberately cold to women who hit on me at office hours because it's insulting (and I'm kind of a dick). And if ever there was a student who bought me a beer, s/he would be the first one to get help at office hours without a doubt. The problem is that the men tend to interrupt other students getting help, call for my attention across the room while I'm busy with something else, and just act with a general sense of entitled arrogance.

chops 17y ago

My experience is not in line with yours. In my experience, answering calls and support questions, I've gotten plenty of guys who are grateful for the help. They might not gush about it, but they almost universally offer thanks for any help I give, it's just more in the guy-like "Thanks a lot, dude, I really appreciate it." On the flip-side, in my experience (I run a MMO guild hosting site, so this is a demographic that's rife with drama), the women I've talked with have a much stronger tendency to get WAY vindictive. I find harshly written emails (on that rare occasion) tend to come from women moreso than men. The men I've helped, when sending an email concerning something like billing or whatnot, tend to be more chill about things "Hey, I noticed X and it doesn't seem to be in line with what I was expecting. What's up?", vs the emails I've gotten from women for similar issues that go something like "What the hell? I don't know what you guys are doing, but if this issue isn't resolved immediately, I'm going to dispute the charge" (mind you, that might be an initial correspondence). None of this is universal, but those are some of the tendencies I've experienced.

greenlblue 17y ago

That's been my experience as well. Guys are more arrogant and feel more entitled than girls and overall I have noticed that girls are more willing to put in the effort and do the work to get a good grade whereas guys will come to you with a sob story and all their initial enthusiasm about doing better will fizzle out within a week.

gaius 17y ago

By "act grateful" you mean, she will (deliberately) mimic the signals that she finds you attractive, making you momentarily feel good about yourself. It's the same as when the pretty waitress flirts with you. She flirts with everyone, and gets good tips. A man will simply say "cheers" and buy you a pint. What do you expect him to do?

alexgartrell 17y ago
Actually, I mean that she will say "Thank you so much!" on the way out of the door. If I was going to TA to get hit on, I would probably TA something besides Introduction to Computer Systems. The girls I've dated tend to be more attractive than the girls who show up at office hours, and I'm deliberately cold to women who hit on me at office hours because it's insulting (and I'm kind of a dick). And if ever there was a student who bought me a beer, s/he would be the first one to get help at office hours without a doubt. The problem is that the men tend to interrupt other students getting help, call for my attention across the room while I'm busy with something else, and just act with a general sense of entitled arrogance.