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Think about what you just said about assumptions and how that dovetails with lack of respect. GP didn't suggest said lack of respect was necessarily malicious.

• lazaroclapp 10y ago
  First of all, I agree with the GP and I am emphatically agreeing with you here that such stereotyping is uncomfortable, unneeded and something that urgently needs to go away. But it is still somewhat different from fully dismissing someone as 'less than' because of gender, and the later (appallingly) still happens. In some circles, you will get people who think along the lines of "yeah, of course there is sexism in industry, I mean, look at Bob, he keeps cracking jokes about women and browses The Red Pill at work. But I am not like Bob, I don't have anything against women, I am trying to help, ergo I can't be sexist". Yet these people can be condescending without generally meaning to disrespect or make less on anyone. When confronted with a woman who is very technical and assertive about that fact, they quickly adjust to treat her as technical, but their default assumption still goes to 'relatively less technical than me' when meeting any new female developer (and doesn't when meeting a male college). I was trying to point out that sort of thing is a problem too.