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You're all over this thread (with good contributions) but this is the best. For me, I build up this fiction of how an event will be. How it will be awkward, h
by chillwaves 10y ago
You're all over this thread (with good contributions) but this is the best. For me, I build up this fiction of how an event will be. How it will be awkward, how I will wish I was somewhere else doing something else.
But it's just a fiction, and the truth is you never know until you try. Going in with an open mind or even trying to have fun instead of prejudging the event has a real effect on if I have a good time.
Different people need different things, for me just a little optimism can do wonders.
- marmot777 10y agoYes, last night I was all over this thread and thanks as I wasn't sure if it was too much, OK, or didn't matter in the slightest either way. Same problem IRL. :-) Yes, absolutely, you're right you never know until try it. I have something coming up that I 100% must go to by design, I'm responsible for it. Anxiety setting in and it's very likely if it weren't for the little trick, I'd talk myself out of going. I'd actively let people down if I don't go to this thing. Maybe that's how I should role from now on be front and center with some responsibility so I can't skip out without being a total asshole. :-) Note: people flip out with happiness when someone steps up and gets something going for other people. It's not that hard to do it either. Weird that more people don't do it.
- marmot777 10y agoOK, the thing I lead yesterday went well. There were a couple irritating people there but that's just people. The penalty for leaving the house is pretty low. :-)