Skipping a gathering is not rude unless the purpose of the gathering is to honor someone that you care about. Say a birthday party, wedding, that kind of thing.

Skipping a gathering is not rude unless the purpose of the gathering is to honor someone that you care about. Say a birthday party, wedding, that kind of thing. It's not only rude to not come, it's rude to be a grump sitting in the corner too. Because it's about the two people getting married. Yeah, it's rude to not have fun at an event like that. Have to try at least and not complain even the slightest bit. Now at your party, cry if if you want to I think is the appropriate philosophy. I'd say those are the only obligatory events.