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> I think that the fear of socializing is all front loaded I agree, at least when I'm in a non-social lifestyle (when I'm living a social "school" lifestyle th
by Nav_Panel 10y ago
> I think that the fear of socializing is all front loaded
I agree, at least when I'm in a non-social lifestyle (when I'm living a social "school" lifestyle then I get grumpy and look for ways to leave). I think living in a big city (NYC) "helps", because you have a lot of options available and because the loneliness can be so oppressive that it almost forces you out into some sort of social setting.
Usually it helps me to have someone to go with. Then, (1) I can't bail because they're also depending on me, and (2) it gives me a little safety net to fall back on in case I'm having trouble socializing. That said, I've had great experiences going out alone, but it can be tough to get the conversation started (or tough to convince yourself to start a conversation) unless it's explicitly a meet-and-greet kinda thing.
- marmot777 10y agoLOL. I've setup a situation for tomorrow where I absolutely can't bail because of how I set it up. I could have done it another way but chose to take on some responsibility regarding an event. I can't bail without being a total asshole. Otherwise, I high chance I would not go.
- Nav_Panel 10y agoYeah, probably important you go, then. I personally bailed on my previously-determined weekend plans because I'm still recovering from a cold, and 36 hours of techno would dramatically set back my recovery. I was hoping for social plans tomorrow and I received an invitation to the beach, so I'm looking forward to that. Gotta get my friendship hours in while it's the weekend, because other than a yet-unplanned date, I've got nothing every day after work next week.
- marmot777 10y agoI think that's a reasonable reason to bail on something like that. LOL. The beach is good medicine.