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I've found that phone is far more effective at resolving disagreements than email/text. People who are better at talking in person tend to feel this way. Other
by ktRolster 10y ago
I've found that phone is far more effective at resolving disagreements than email/text.
People who are better at talking in person tend to feel this way. Others are better at emailing (I am like this, it gives me time to clarify my thoughts, and delete the petty insults), and think the opposite.
The only time I prefer to see face-to-face is when I need to build a relationship of trust with the person, and it's easier for some people (like you) to see that I am not ripping them off.
- kkirsche 10y agoI'm the exact same way. Thank you for expressing why I prefer email to calls or face to face meetings so succinctly.
- jameshart 10y agoPeople who are better at emailing often overestimate how good other people are at reading emails.
- kristjansson 10y agoThis is a far bigger problem than some here might think. I write emails now on the assumption that the recipient might read the first two sentences, skim the first two paragraphs, and ignore the rest.
- beardicus 10y agoThey should teach this in business school. I never write my boss an email more than three sentences long. I never ask two questions in one email, unless I don't mind one of them being ignored.
- kwhitefoot 10y agoSurely they do teach just that? Whenever I write a report I always put the summary first because that is all that anyone who trusts me needs to read. The rest is supporting information and extended arguments in favour of the proposition that I make in the summary together with some notes about why alternatives are no good. Of course, I never went to business school, I'm an engineer who started as a physicist.
- ktRolster 10y agoYou are expressing that you prefer talking on the phone. That is fine.
- toasterlovin 10y agoNo, I think they are expressing the idea that people who are fluent enough with the language to prefer written over in-person communication might not fully appreciate the extremely poor reading comprehension of the general population. I say this as somebody who used to prefer written communication. But I have come to realize that it is necessary to ask your audience, "Does that make sense?" after every major and minor point, and then listen to them reformulate what you just told them to make sure they actually got it.
- ktRolster 10y agoSo.....you are someone who prefers to talk on the phone.
- toasterlovin 10y agoYou know, I couldn't have provided a better example of the exact phenomenon I was talking about. Thank you.