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I'm baffled as to why you're getting downvotes. As a dudette, I have never felt more clueless since having my baby, and it is only through extensive research th

by snegu 10y ago

I'm baffled as to why you're getting downvotes. As a dudette, I have never felt more clueless since having my baby, and it is only through extensive research that I have any idea what to do with him. If "maternal instinct" is a real thing, then I guess there's something defective about me.

protomyth 10y ago
At least where I'm at, its more that most girls with multiple younger siblings or cousins have probably dealt with them under parents, aunts, etc. supervision than boys. Mommy and daughter bonding time (sometimes Grandma and Aunts). Learned behavior reinforced with toys of the same nature. Lots of girls these days don't have that extended family or siblings to learn with.
- vlehto 10y ago
  I'm turning 30 soon, and my female friends seem to get invitations to look at someones newborn. I sure don't any of that.
  - protomyth 10y ago
    Look up the male / female percentages on daycare workers and you'll get the consequences of that behavior.
hexane360 10y ago
The parent didn't imply "maternal instinct". That's one explanation for the gap in knowledge. The other is socialization. It's no secret that girls play "house" more, play with dolls, are taught by traditionally maternal role models, are more likely to take babysitting classes, etc. More women than men plan a large part of their life around being a parent.
qb45 10y ago
I downvoted him for expressing the factually incorrect and IMO dangerous notion that knowledge has to be inborn or learned by means of formal organized schooling. And for ignoring the obvious fact that the reason why modern women are clueless around children and men clueless around women (especially in certain circles :p) is that they spend their youth locked up with other clueless children and discouraged from expressing their gender (because equality and whatnot) instead of hanging out with experienced adults and learning from them. My $.02.
- c22 10y ago
  I think you misunderstood what I was trying to express. I was providing not an exhaustive list of modes of learning, but a (non-exhaustive) list of hypothetical vectors that could lead to the vast majority of one gender being expected to be inherently expert at a subject.

by snegu 10y ago

protomyth 10y ago

At least where I'm at, its more that most girls with multiple younger siblings or cousins have probably dealt with them under parents, aunts, etc. supervision than boys. Mommy and daughter bonding time (sometimes Grandma and Aunts). Learned behavior reinforced with toys of the same nature. Lots of girls these days don't have that extended family or siblings to learn with.

vlehto 10y ago
I'm turning 30 soon, and my female friends seem to get invitations to look at someones newborn. I sure don't any of that.
- protomyth 10y ago
  Look up the male / female percentages on daycare workers and you'll get the consequences of that behavior.

hexane360 10y ago

The parent didn't imply "maternal instinct". That's one explanation for the gap in knowledge. The other is socialization. It's no secret that girls play "house" more, play with dolls, are taught by traditionally maternal role models, are more likely to take babysitting classes, etc. More women than men plan a large part of their life around being a parent.

qb45 10y ago

I downvoted him for expressing the factually incorrect and IMO dangerous notion that knowledge has to be inborn or learned by means of formal organized schooling. And for ignoring the obvious fact that the reason why modern women are clueless around children and men clueless around women (especially in certain circles :p) is that they spend their youth locked up with other clueless children and discouraged from expressing their gender (because equality and whatnot) instead of hanging out with experienced adults and learning from them. My $.02.

c22 10y ago
I think you misunderstood what I was trying to express. I was providing not an exhaustive list of modes of learning, but a (non-exhaustive) list of hypothetical vectors that could lead to the vast majority of one gender being expected to be inherently expert at a subject.