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Does it go away after a while?

• dgreensp 10y ago
  My anxiety has slowly lessened as I've gotten older. I'm now 32 and married with kids. I attribute it to getting out on my own, growing up, and letting things go. Get out: For most of us, there was something toxic about our home or school environment. It might be obvious, or it might be something you have to dig out. You may still be in a toxic environment, where people undermine your sense of who you are and discourage real growth. (In fact, most school and work environments have this quality, but it makes a big difference how you take it and what you're doing with the rest of your hours.) For me, I had to get some serious distance from my parents and get out of grad school. Get out, and you'll begin to heal, which is a process that takes years. Grow up: Take ownership of your body, your living space, your time, and so on. Clean your apartment. Go to the gym. Get a real job. Enjoy hard, meaningful work. Have real responsibilities. A lot of people seem to want to avoid growing up. Have friends and hobbies. Stop coasting on the advantages that launched you into the world (money, grades, connections, accomplishments, etc.). Letting things go: Every once in a while, you'll be relieved to find you just don't care about something anymore. This is a known side effect of getting older and could be biological. You don't care as much what people think of you. You don't care about some old grudge or embarrassment you've been clinging on to. You don't care what you thought your life would be. You just live for now.