My father, brother, both grandfathers, one grandmother and fiance (female) are all adults on the spectrum (Aspergers under DSM-4). Empathy can be systematized l

My father, brother, both grandfathers, one grandmother and fiance (female) are all adults on the spectrum (Aspergers under DSM-4). Empathy can be systematized like anything else. This works in 99% percent of situations. Just give him opportunities to be around people at his speed (like 2E gifted magnet programs in a large urban center) and he can learn to mimic their social skills. Career-wise, we seem to keep going to school until we burn out due to boredom (introverts last longer, like masters or PhDs, extroverts seem to drop out of undergrad) and then end up owning small, obscure businesses as a dictator doing economically valuable intellectual things. Primarily the introverts of the family maintain no regular social relationships at all outside of immediate family, extroverts have weird friends of varying IQ levels. The biggest source of meaning seems to be family and intellectually difficult work. YMMV.