It's not what people say, it's the intention behind it. If I say "I'm too white for that" or "my male brain cannot process that many stuff at the same time", a

It's not what people say, it's the intention behind it. If I say "I'm too white for that" or "my male brain cannot process that many stuff at the same time", am I'm being racist and sexist? No, because I'm just joking about my own stereotype. If I would want to verbally assault a women, I can do that without ever referring to her gender. The other hugely important factor is the body language and tone, that completely get lost in the reporting, I can say "I'm going to brutally murder you and hang your corpse up a tree", which sounds like a legit death threat, however, if I say this to you, it depends on how I say it. So clearly, worrying about what people say without context is backwards.