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>Still, rape jokes are not acceptable. Perhaps, but it's not something that is obviously unacceptable. I would put it on the same level as making a joke about

>Still, rape jokes are not acceptable. Perhaps, but it's not something that is obviously unacceptable. I would put it on the same level as making a joke about an intruder coming to bomb/shoot everyone. Certainly it's in poor taste, but that's the level of humour you find everywhere.

keithnz 10y ago
if that was a real and possible threat to someone, then that would be totally unacceptable as well. Pretty sure people who went through 9/11 would not appreciate that. Thing is, it's not found everywhere, there are very respectful workplace environments. If people do cross the line it is called out and dealt with and quite quickly things converge on what is acceptable and what's not.
- r-w 10y ago
  It’s a shitty joke. Just move on. It shouldn’t be the company’s business to legislate whether jokes are in good taste. If just one person is uncomfortable on that team, they should just be put on another team, no questions asked. An entire team shouldn’t have to adjust their speech for just one uncomfortable person, especially when just one slip-up prompts that incident being shared company-wide in a massive and petty shaming attempt.
scott_s 10y ago
Rape jokes are obviously unacceptable.
- cpncrunch 10y ago
  No more obviously unacceptable than bomb/murder jokes, both of which are pretty common.
  - scott_s 10y ago
    Rape jokes are obviously unacceptable because they would violate even the flimsiest of sexual harassment policies.
    - cpncrunch 10y ago
      Just because it might violate a sexual harassment policy doesn't mean it is "obviously unacceptable". Those policies tend to be very conservative. In most workplaces (in my experience) people talk openly about sex and relationships, which would probably violate even these "flimsy" policies. Sex is natural, and it's natural for people to want to talk about it. The important thing is whether you are deliberately harassing someone, whether you should reasonably know that your behaviour is abusive, and whether you stop doing it when you're told that it upsets someone. I've always worked in places where the majority of people are quite reasonable, but I realise not all workplaces are like that.

keithnz 10y ago

if that was a real and possible threat to someone, then that would be totally unacceptable as well. Pretty sure people who went through 9/11 would not appreciate that. Thing is, it's not found everywhere, there are very respectful workplace environments. If people do cross the line it is called out and dealt with and quite quickly things converge on what is acceptable and what's not.

r-w 10y ago
It’s a shitty joke. Just move on. It shouldn’t be the company’s business to legislate whether jokes are in good taste. If just one person is uncomfortable on that team, they should just be put on another team, no questions asked. An entire team shouldn’t have to adjust their speech for just one uncomfortable person, especially when just one slip-up prompts that incident being shared company-wide in a massive and petty shaming attempt.

scott_s 10y ago

Rape jokes are obviously unacceptable.

cpncrunch 10y ago
No more obviously unacceptable than bomb/murder jokes, both of which are pretty common.
- scott_s 10y ago
  Rape jokes are obviously unacceptable because they would violate even the flimsiest of sexual harassment policies.
  - cpncrunch 10y ago
    Just because it might violate a sexual harassment policy doesn't mean it is "obviously unacceptable". Those policies tend to be very conservative. In most workplaces (in my experience) people talk openly about sex and relationships, which would probably violate even these "flimsy" policies. Sex is natural, and it's natural for people to want to talk about it. The important thing is whether you are deliberately harassing someone, whether you should reasonably know that your behaviour is abusive, and whether you stop doing it when you're told that it upsets someone. I've always worked in places where the majority of people are quite reasonable, but I realise not all workplaces are like that.