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In almost every discussion of bullying on the internet we get these two contrasting comments: "I was bullied until I hit back" and "I was bullied until I ignore
by aninhumer 10y ago
In almost every discussion of bullying on the internet we get these two contrasting comments: "I was bullied until I hit back" and "I was bullied until I ignored them".
Maybe, just maybe, the best response depends on the situation and the bullies?
It's great that you found a solution that works, and obviously you want to help other children achieve the same, but I don't think this implied "if everyone just did what I did, bullying would be solved" attitude is very helpful.
- brador 10y agoI have never seen any evidence, not even a single anecdote, that said "I was bullied until I ignored them".
- aninhumer 10y agoThen you haven't been paying attention. It's a fairly common story: "I used to get wound up and react to bullies, but as soon as I stopped reacting, they got bored and stopped." It matches most of my experiences with bullying, although mostly this was in the form of bullies trying to start teasing me, and giving up in disgust when they couldn't get a rise out of me. But I'm also aware that my own experiences were fairly tame, and not at all representative of other people's, which is my point.
- kayla210 10y agoI've dealt with bullies in this way too. It does depend on the bully, as well if the victim is capable of completely ignoring someone like that. As a child, I wouldn't have been able to show no emotion on my face and ignore someone teasing me as I wore my heart on my sleeve.