> We have progressed, and are whittling away at the extremes, but then the relative borders of unacceptable move closer perhaps enough to make the emotional mag

> We have progressed, and are whittling away at the extremes, but then the relative borders of unacceptable move closer perhaps enough to make the emotional magnitude equivalent. I think this is a general trend with socializing and the internet. Before ~instantaneous communication in global forums, you had to "make do" or compromise with how you socialized among your peers, since you were limited to the immediate geographic area (less as you grow older and potentially get access to cars/more autonomy). But now, you can literally just take your socializing elsewhere, it's a "buyers" market for socializing where, if you don't like your current social network, you can pretty easily drop it and go somewhere more comfortable for you. This is great from a curated safety standpoint but it breeds dependence on these social escapes. I think parallels nicely with "fight or flight" where you can either try to fight for your social standing in your current environment, or flee to a more welcoming one. If you always choose flee, you'll always be satisfied by some other group socially (assuming you can find one, which should be pretty easy on the internet) but you'll never learn how to handle social conflict in a healthy manner, and thus your boundaries of acceptability shrink more and more as you mature and come to better understand what you want (or at least what you dislike). I think it's similar to having too hygienic an environment when growing up, your body doesn't adapt to various allergens and you end up less healthy the curation. Or the cliche spoiled child, who grows up to become extremely difficult to work on a team/interact with in general because they're not learned in compromise and are incapable of comprehending "not getting their way." Technology in general allows us to better enact our will, which I think is also slowly spoiling those who fully take advantage of it. Just like it's healthy to keep physically and mentally challenging yourself, I think emotionally challenging yourself is also healthy, and while you don't need to seek out difficult social interactions, I think it's healthy to try to solve the problems without simply avoiding them. edit: for age context, i'm in my mid-twenties