I think it is that by stating how someone is right, you are demonstrating a comprehensive understanding of their views which justifies your disagreement. It gro

I think it is that by stating how someone is right, you are demonstrating a comprehensive understanding of their views which justifies your disagreement. It grounds your points in theirs, creating a shared position which is easier to understand than two positions that are simply smashed against each other until the more solid one prevails. I think someone who flatters the ego is cargo culting persuasion. It may work when people are more invested in the power relationship than the discussion, like a discussion between a worker and their boss, but otherwise yes I think it is belittling and someone trying to have a genuine dialogue is going to find it obnoxious and insincere.