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This is a very interesting and well written piece, but I'm going to have to disagree, as (like false modesty) the tactic quickly becomes identifiable as such an
by andrewclunn 10y ago
This is a very interesting and well written piece, but I'm going to have to disagree, as (like false modesty) the tactic quickly becomes identifiable as such and turns people off.
- jskulski 10y agoI agree, insincere flattery (maybe even condescension?) will be read and figured out. To me, this is sort of inline with How to Win Friends and Influence People. Taken at face value and just following the motions will be ineffectual at best, offensive at worst. I do think there is value to be gained, like with HTWFIP, that if done sincerely I very valuable for both sides. If I actually have to understand your view, that opens my mind.
- smallnamespace 10y agoThe key is to honestly want to find common ground with the other person, just like the antidote to false modesty is to actually be modest.
- Mendenhall 10y agoI think you may be misunderstanding in that there is nothing false about it. You are actually finding that which you agree upon.