Without specific examples on what your frustrations are, my best guess is that you are just overwhelmed. It was not long ago that I was in a similar situation

Without specific examples on what your frustrations are, my best guess is that you are just overwhelmed. It was not long ago that I was in a similar situation like you, all these overlapping technologies looked unnecessary and redundant. Just the node ecosystem by itself, felt like a pile of crap that depended on a bigger pile of crap. For a simple application like "hello world" in React, I have to choose between a large number of possible combinations of packages and install and configure god knows how many of them. But once you take sometime to adjust and familiarize yourself, you discover that each one of them is a little jewel and are the quite opposite of crap or hack you initially thought. At least that's the conclusion I arrived to. So, my advice is to just take your time to familiarize yourself with as many technologies as you can in every aspect of web development. After the initial shock, you will start appreciating things and you will realize that they are made by excellent engineers and each has its own merits.