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>> "My experience of kids is that they are greatly influenced by how their parents see their behavior." Exactly, which is why it's very possible that the scamm
by nxzero 10y ago
>> "My experience of kids is that they are greatly influenced by how their parents see their behavior."
Exactly, which is why it's very possible that the scammer behavior was learned from by the kid from their parents.
I actively engage people around me. I've tried the whole talking to parents way, and if you don't know them it's not uncommon for the response to be to mind your own business or worse, "Fuck you, I know how to raise my kids."
Beyond that, I've found that a number of parents with "good relationships" over estimate that the relationship is based on authority, not respect. This becomes obvious when the parent no longer has any authority over their children.
- duaneb 10y agoAssuming that the parent doesn't care helps nobody, though. At least allow the parent to fail.
- nxzero 10y agoThe parent "caring" and making a meaningful positive difference are not the same things. Allowing the parent to fail might be super negative for the scammer too. For example, parents withdrawal of financial support for his education, kicking them out, reporting them to the police, or worse, the kid commits suicide; if you read the kids responses, it's very clear they're not stable. Fine with you disagreeing with my experiences of helping people, but please be careful in how you apply your approach in the real world.
- thatfrenchguy 10y ago"Exactly, which is why it's very possible that the scammer behavior was learned from by the kid from their parents. " Kids do stupid stuff, always. Doesn't mean they want their parent to figure out.