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Let me respectfully suggest that if you wish to be part of the solution instead of paet of the problem, you go thoughtfully engage some of the comments made her

by Mz 10y ago

Let me respectfully suggest that if you wish to be part of the solution instead of paet of the problem, you go thoughtfully engage some of the comments made here by people self identifying as female instead of arguing with a man in this way. Your arguments here are part of the problem because it promotes a "what about da menz" environment while also giving the man you are arguing with reason to dig in his heels. This is likely yo make his position more entrenchedcrather than less. And, in theory, if I had any sense, I would probably be doing this as a blog post rather than as a reply to you, which risks being experienced by you as an attack. But, in practice, being too careful seems to amount to being ineffectual.

gentleteblor 10y ago
I don't see your comment as an attack (criticizism is aok), but i do want to understand it. Are you saying that i am simultaneously minimizing gender diversity in tech ("what about da menz") AND encouraging more folks to do so by being too blunt? If you are (again, i'm not sure what you're saying), i'd say the first point is a wrong reading of my comments. The second point is a little better. I am being blunt, but that's just what the doctor ordered here. EDIT (can't reply to your comment): That is better, thank you for clarifying. I had not thought about silence as the biggest problem for women in tech. I don't know the gender of the first poster i replied to, but maybe i should have made a point to engage with one of the female engineers in the thread. Maybe it's a blind spot, something i have to keep an eye out for and be better at. Will be thinking about it for sure. I still believe in my comments about some of these attitudes that are popular on HN. We should all talk about them.
- Mz 10y ago
  I am saying that actions speak louder than words. I am saying men already talk to men plenty, even debate them in a meaty way. The biggest problem women have in STEM is the deafening silence that greets them at every turn. I am saying if you really want progress, talking with women solves the problem of deafening silence in a very immediate way while setting an example to follow. Examples are generally more effective at fomenting positive social change than criticism of those claiming the problem is not real. Is that clearer? Thank you for replying. Edit: I saw your update. Thanks.

by Mz 10y ago

gentleteblor 10y ago

I don't see your comment as an attack (criticizism is aok), but i do want to understand it. Are you saying that i am simultaneously minimizing gender diversity in tech ("what about da menz") AND encouraging more folks to do so by being too blunt? If you are (again, i'm not sure what you're saying), i'd say the first point is a wrong reading of my comments. The second point is a little better. I am being blunt, but that's just what the doctor ordered here. EDIT (can't reply to your comment): That is better, thank you for clarifying. I had not thought about silence as the biggest problem for women in tech. I don't know the gender of the first poster i replied to, but maybe i should have made a point to engage with one of the female engineers in the thread. Maybe it's a blind spot, something i have to keep an eye out for and be better at. Will be thinking about it for sure. I still believe in my comments about some of these attitudes that are popular on HN. We should all talk about them.

Mz 10y ago
I am saying that actions speak louder than words. I am saying men already talk to men plenty, even debate them in a meaty way. The biggest problem women have in STEM is the deafening silence that greets them at every turn. I am saying if you really want progress, talking with women solves the problem of deafening silence in a very immediate way while setting an example to follow. Examples are generally more effective at fomenting positive social change than criticism of those claiming the problem is not real. Is that clearer? Thank you for replying. Edit: I saw your update. Thanks.