5 ms·

I encountered this just yesterday. Interviewed a lovely woman with a gender neutral name and a fantastic resume that I assumed was a man before getting on the p

by debacle 10y ago

I encountered this just yesterday. Interviewed a lovely woman with a gender neutral name and a fantastic resume that I assumed was a man before getting on the phone with her. She turned out to be just as good as she looked on paper, and I'm certainly looking forward to hiring her. I feel like gender only matters to the kind of people that gender matters to (tautologies are cool).

kaybe 10y ago
It would be nice if implicit biases and subconscious prejudices just went away if we started to ignore them.
- 1_2__3 10y ago
  It'd be even nicer if people stopped being so judgemental that they no longer judge people's unrevealed thoughts and instead base their opinion on actions. Because telling people they have a secret and unknown racist/misogynist hiding inside them guiding them covertly is probably never gonna convince anybody to change their mind.
  - kaybe 10y ago
    Current research shows this is not something you can just change your mind about because you want to, sadly. But I agree, being confrontational will not fix things. At the same time, it being subconscious makes it not a single person's fault. One can and should do better than that, but if sub-ideal situations happen (within reason), it does not mean the person is bad. So actions can be judged with this in mind for now, and everyone can be less afraid to make mistakes. Someone questions my abilities to drive the heavy car for a long distance, but never the guys'? Let's have a look at what is happening, laugh about it and correct for it. But it has to be out in the open.
    - justinpombrio 10y ago
      > Current research shows this is not something you can just change your mind about because you want to, sadly. Could you link to this research? I'm curious to see what studies have to say.
    - generic_user 10y ago
      Woman who have a deep internalized Misandry usually don't realize that they have a problem. Research show there is probably nothing you can consciously do about your irrational fear had hatred of Men. But its definitely problematic and needs to be corrected. You can not have a conversation with circular logic like this.
- taneq 10y ago
  It'd also be nice if we could decide each case on its merits without being accused of implicit biases and subconscious prejudices if our decision doesn't align with what's currently ordained as "progressive".

by debacle 10y ago

kaybe 10y ago

It would be nice if implicit biases and subconscious prejudices just went away if we started to ignore them.

1_2__3 10y ago
It'd be even nicer if people stopped being so judgemental that they no longer judge people's unrevealed thoughts and instead base their opinion on actions. Because telling people they have a secret and unknown racist/misogynist hiding inside them guiding them covertly is probably never gonna convince anybody to change their mind.
- kaybe 10y ago
  Current research shows this is not something you can just change your mind about because you want to, sadly. But I agree, being confrontational will not fix things. At the same time, it being subconscious makes it not a single person's fault. One can and should do better than that, but if sub-ideal situations happen (within reason), it does not mean the person is bad. So actions can be judged with this in mind for now, and everyone can be less afraid to make mistakes. Someone questions my abilities to drive the heavy car for a long distance, but never the guys'? Let's have a look at what is happening, laugh about it and correct for it. But it has to be out in the open.
  - justinpombrio 10y ago
    > Current research shows this is not something you can just change your mind about because you want to, sadly. Could you link to this research? I'm curious to see what studies have to say.
  - generic_user 10y ago
    Woman who have a deep internalized Misandry usually don't realize that they have a problem. Research show there is probably nothing you can consciously do about your irrational fear had hatred of Men. But its definitely problematic and needs to be corrected. You can not have a conversation with circular logic like this.
taneq 10y ago
It'd also be nice if we could decide each case on its merits without being accused of implicit biases and subconscious prejudices if our decision doesn't align with what's currently ordained as "progressive".