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If you're going to take it that way, don't interact with humans ever. You do you, my friend. But that's black-and-white illogical thinking. "Once I asked a woma
by kaitai 10y ago
If you're going to take it that way, don't interact with humans ever. You do you, my friend. But that's black-and-white illogical thinking. "Once I asked a woman to discuss a tech thing and then she mentioned her boyfriend forever." Who cares? One person had a hangup or a bad experience, and the horrible outcome is that she mentioned her boyfriend a few times. Try again with someone else, guy or gal. Try asking two people to coffee at once. There won't be any tragedies if you are polite and professional.
- microcolonel 10y ago>the horrible outcome is that she mentioned her boyfriend a few times. You're missing the point. The horrible outcome is that she will forever hold the irrational concern that you're hitting on her. It will colour everything you say or do.
- munchbunny 10y agoI think he/she got the point, but just doesn't see it as a big deal. I don't either, though I can understand the hesitation. The parent poster's point is that you really can't let that bother you, and that in situations like these a thicker skin for awkwardness pared with straightforward but polite communication will serve you better in the long run.
- kaitai 10y agoExactly.
- Teever 10y agoI care. I care when a woman takes a totally innocuous statement or question the wrong way and thinks to her self "That guy is creepy." I care when she tells her friends "stay away from that guy, he's a creep." I care when she gets promoted and becomes my boss and thinks "that guys a creep."